Dr Manju Antil (Counselling Psychologist and Psychotherapist)

How to achieve good adjustment is a problem for every person but all his techniques do not become effective and successful. Anxious person tries to forget his anxiety by involving in drugs will not achieve success in adjustment. Such attempts of adjustments are not proper. The attempts of adjustment are not proper. The attempts of adjustment depend on following three insights.

Insight About self: The mystery of adjustment lies in knowing oneself. An individual should know himself. That means he must have proper insight for good adjustment one should recognize his abilities and limitations. Firstly all individuals should know their problems and secondly self-analysis which gives insight into the dilution of problems. In this way individuals find many possibilities of the solution of his problems instead of one possible solution. Third thing is that we must aware of our place in the society. Our social existence is a network of interrelation and mutual relations. Therefore to know our self, we must know others well.

Insight about others: Well adjusted s not selfish. He tries to satisfy his needs but not at the cost of others. He resolves his problems but not yet by increasing the problems of others. Thus individual should be aware of others needs and feelings. He can understand when others require his help, sympathy, friendship etc. In this way relation with others become intimate and deep.

The insight about the problem: The insight about the problems means the nature of problem and the situation in which the problem is to be solved. By knowing about the problem, the individual can recognize the seriousness of the problem and he can examine the problem from a different point of view by using proper tools to achieve the goals.